My mum was born and bred in Walthamstow. She and her husband, Patrick, worked hard throughout their lives to bring up their family. Eileen was the friendliest of people and was always helping neighbours and others in daily life .- despite fighting the illnesses and knocks which life delivers.
In the latter part of her life - in about 2010- Mum developed vascular dementia which slowly took her memory and mind away. But my darling Mum fought it and allowed me the privilege of caring for her at her home where she wanted to be through those long difficult years .
Mum always cared for me so I cared for her.
She and I knew that there was no happy ending for dementia but we made the best of what we had in life to find some pleasure as the illness took it’s horrible course. Even something as simple as one of mums’ boiled sweets could be a thing of happiness - or a ray of sunlight as I took her outside in her wheel chair. She loved having an ice cream at Epping Forest despite it being difficult to eat .
Yes - Mum had a truly loving heart and is missed every day - all the time . It has been three long sad years without her. But I know that she is still with me in spirit and I do my best to honour her through supporting dementia UK and other dementia charities . Mum would have wanted this . She and I would encourage you, dear reader, to do the same.
On Sunday the 4th of February 2018 at 0830 mass will be said in memory of my mum and dad at our local RC church in Shernhall Street E173eh All are welcome - otherwise your prayers are welcome too.
Thank you for reading this painful memory. As has been said “ grief is the price of love “ and Mum my was full of love . The grieving is long and deep for someone so special in life.
I am honoured and privileged to have has Eileen May Fouhy as my mother and she will always be loved in my heart and never forgotten
As I pray for my parents I ask God to care for them and ask that I be with them again some day